What makes us happy?

You are responsible for your own happiness in life no one else.

What makes us happy in life?  If you asked me that question when I was a teenager, I probably would have said, playing video games’ party’s, clubbing, girls, having fun’ money’ New clothes and shoes’ the list goes on. Ok I must admit I still like to play the occasional game and have fun when I can. However most of that stuff I mentioned above gets boring after a while and the novelty wears off.

The older I have got in life, the more I have realized that to be true. Yes you need money to survive in life’ and its nice if you can share special moments with that someone, but for the most part especially when it comes to materialistic stuff, is only a temporary happy state at best. But what really makes us happy in life is the ultimate question were asking here. well friends that answer is clearer to me now more then ever before. Giving”.  A real man gives.

A real man goes into something or a situation and doesn’t say how can I get the sweeter end of the deal here, how can I cheat these people and end with the most. what’s in it for me. No, a real man looks around and says what can I do to help, Someone who is of service to others. He see’s he’s friend and Doesn’t say “hey can you do me a favor” but he sees he’s friend and says” how are you? What are you having trouble with’ what can I do to help you. That is what a real man does. That is the way he goes to work’ That’s the way he treats he’s family’ That’s how he treats he’s friends’ That’s how he conducts himself in all areas in he’s life.

We live in a society today where everyone wants to take,  take,  take,  get,  get,  get. How much can I take. Greed is over riding our Corporations’ over riding people. Everyone wants things for free, let’s see how I can get this for free’ let’s see how I can cheat people. The mentality, if you think you can cheat the world out of giving you more then you’re giving it back, your gonna end up broke, your gonna end up poor’ you gonna end up miserable. The way to happiness’ the way to abundance’ the way to get wealthy’ the way to be successful with woman’ the way to be a success in life is to be a giver.

Often but not all the time when a man meets a woman he wants to take something from her, deprive her of something, to use her in one form or another for he’s own needs and cares in life. Well to them I say’ a woman is like a flower. When a flower Doesn’t get any light from the sun, what happens to the flower it dies. When you give light to others’ to a woman’ she or they’ well blossom of you. Many guys fail to realize this out there, because they want to take’ but do not want to give back. I have been guilty of this numerous times in the past

But here’s the thing when you keep taking and taking and never give’ you do not give the world any value’ and guess what, when you do not give the world value’ it will not give you value back.

There is something about giving that makes us happy in life, that gives your life purpose and meaning. We all have something to give in this world’ our own unique gifts’ and talents to share with others. Just look at the late Michael Jackson how many people he made happy with he’s special talent. How many album’s he sold says it all. Rick Rescorla never heard of him right? Well if it where not for him giving he’s life to save others” It’s thought that he’s help lead to at least 1000 people evacuating the World Trade Center Tower 1′ safely that day. If it was not for he’s actions if not already bad enough, the death toll from the twin towers on 9/11 would have been even more catastrophic. He gave his very own life so that others might live that day. But for me there is one that stands out from the crowd, One who gave he’s life for the whole world’ the most amazing giver of all time was Jesus. No one else in the whole of the universe and history gave more then God. He sent hes only begotten son, John chapter 3:16 proves just how much he gave to the whole world. If only we as humans could learn something from that verse’ we would not sadly be where we are today.

At times in the past, I have often caught myself thinking about my own selfish needs ahead of others’ which has often caused heart ache’ and grief towards other’s at one point or another in my life. I have also seen at first hand what can happen when we choose to ignore other people’s feelings and thoughts ahead of our own selfish needs and desires in life. If I could change back the hands of time, would I have done certain things differently’ most definitely. Where their opportunities in my life where I could have given more to others, my partner, daughter, even myself” absolutely. So don’t make the same mistakes i did.

There comes a time in life when you have to say to yourself’ look, where am I going as an individual and what sort of legacy do I want to leave behind. Do I want to leave a trail of misery and unhappy people on my path, and if not, what can I do to better not only myself but those around me. How can I Give to others in need of a helping hand. Time is one of the most important things you can give someone. I have been guilty countless times of not giving enough time and attention’ to certain people in my life. most regrettably my daughter’ while growing up there where many times when I could have been there for her more, Played with her more, took her to the park more, helped her with her homework more, but instead at times I chose to pursue my own selfish needs and wants at the time. I realize that now more then ever. Time is precious, something we can never get back’ as it only goes in one direction, so use it wisely. Let me tell you something’ 

When you give or offer a valuable service to someone not only does it make that person feel happy’ but it leaves you with a feeling of a happiness and joy that you well never find any where else in this life, or the life to come.

So can we give more as humans beings to others around us’ on a daily basis’ am guessing you know the answer for that question already.

I repeat Giving to others is the key to happiness and success in life. So if you want to do something different for a change’ If you want to be successful in life then give ten times what you want to get back. And when you do that, you well never be at lack in any area of your life.
There is a law of indirect return’ that means for example guys out there, if you want to have a beautiful girlfriend’ it doesn’t always mean that if you go to talk to that girl over there’ automatically your gonna be reciprocated and your gonna get that girl. The law of indirect return means if you put in the hard work’ if you go and talk to ten different beautiful woman on the 10th one’ your guaranteed to get a girlfriend. You gave ten different girls your love and attention first’ and in return you well get what you want. Hard work always gets rewarded in life.

So look around you, cause there is somebody out there crying for your help in one form or another right now.
It would seem that the more we give to others, the poorer we become, but just the opposite is true. Service to others brings meaning and fulfillment in our lives in a way that wealth, power, possessions and self-centered pursuits can never match.

Conclusion Each of us has something to give. Some have wealth, some have talents, some have time. Whatever gifts we have been given large or small we should share generously. When we do we make the world better for someone else and find true meaning and satisfaction in our own lives.

one song comes to mind ‘Heal the world’ let’s make it a better place. ‘Michael Jackson’ we’ll that my friend starts with the Man in the Mirror.

I hope you enjoyed this article about happiness, make sure you stay tuned for more.

Untill next time Godbless.

Calvin

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Are you good enough?

Hi guys, this is Calvin and today’s topic is called are you good enough? So lets dive straight in.

Life is such a precious and wonderful gift! I often find myself thinking what would my life have been like if things did not turn out the way they did’ where would I be now, what would I be doing in life, would it be different’ would my life be any better 5 4 3 2 and…….

It’s easy to sit and think what if? What if this happened differently, why me, if only, how can this happen to me, I should have done things differently.
But let’s face it, that sort of thinking will not get us anywhere in life. Everything’s has panned out the way it did, And so we have to deal with the hand that we where dealt and make the most of it. And yes environmental factors can play a role in the way we are raised which can make it harder for us to achieve our goals and accomplish the things we want in life, but for the most part if we really want something, if we put our best foot forward we can achieve and be where we want in life.

It’s important to remind ourselves’ that some of the most successful people in life started at the bottom with nothing. For some no clothes, no shoes barley getting by each day with what they had, but somehow through all there hardships, struggles and obstacles in life’ they found a way to turn a dark day into a light one. I have often at times sat down and felt sorry for myself about the way things have turned out in my life, but I soon realized feeling sorry for myself would not pay the bills, neither would it get me back on the right track.

There is always someone worse of then yourself.

Remember that guys. Mine or your darkest day could very well be someone else’s brightest day.

So let us not take life for granted’ and try to have a positive outlook about the future. We all have dreams, goals and aspirations in life, but how can we turn those dreams and goals into reality.

We can start by never giving up. Because the moment you think to yourself dam” I cannot do this’ or am not good enough, and so am just going to give up, the moment you think like that you have already failed my friend.

Never give yourself the option of giving up’ or standing down. Look your goal straight on’ and head towards it like a roaring lion with the end or target in sight. What does a lion do when it’s about to catch it’s pray? it locks onto the target, it knows what it wants’ it’s made it’s mind up and then it goes in for the kill.

Now sometimes it might not get what it wants, but that doesn’t stop the lion it keeps going untill finally it gets what it wants’ and gets its meal. Because it doesn’t give itself the option to fail, otherwise it would starve and die. The countless number of times I have said to myself I can’t do it’ I will never make it, the self doubt I had about my own dreams, and goals is time unfortunately I well never get back. Time goes in one direction guy’s so do not look back.

Do not make the same mistakes I did. If you have a goal in life, or a dream lock on to it and head straight’ not backwards, not around, not sideways but straight ahead like that roaring lion.

Well they be obstacles and people telling you that you cannot make it on the way Absolutely. When you are in your car, is there traffic lights’ traffic jams, Sometimes even accidents on the way to your destination or things slowing you down Yes, But you persist and you be patient, you keep your cool and what normally happens is, eventually you make it to your destination.

There well always be people telling you what you can and cannot do in life. Especially those who want to see you fail at something.

But if everybody listened to someone who told you that you would never make it, that you where not good enough, that you might as well give up, and if you stopped to take their advice. “Listen let me tell you something”

“Walt Disney was fired at some point, and  he was told he lacked imagination, “yes imagination of all things”.

It’s funny that because from what I remember growing up as a kid and watching many Disney films, inspiration and imagination, where at the heart of many classic Disney films kids still watch today. I can’t imagine my childhood without some of the most memorable cartoons like Pinocchio, Dumbo, Peter Pan the Jungle book, Aladdin’ the list goes on. If Walt Disney would have listened to someone who said he lacked imagination’ then what a great shame that would have been for millions of kids around the world. But thankfully he did not give up. He kept on going until he got it right.

The list goes on’ from the Beatles, to Stephen king, to Oprah Winfrey the richest woman in the world today. They where all told at some point in there early careers that they where not good enough and then dropped by there record, and publishing labels respectively. But one thing they all had in common despite what others might have said, was they never gave up. They didn’t stop because someone told them that they where not good enough. So guys I ask you this simple question, are you good enough?

Keep at it, if at first you fail get right back up and try again.

One thing I have realized the most about myself looking back through the years’ is that I have been my worst own enemy, no one else it was me.

But there comes a time in life when you have to ask yourself what am I doing? Where am I going? And although I cannot change the past’ I can dam well try to make a better tomorrow. But it starts with me, It starts with you. So for people out there reading this, don’t give up’ because am telling you’ that you can be that doctor’ you can be that lawyer’ or musician’ artist’ or whatever it is you want to achieve in life, You can succeed at it. But just don’t give yourself the option of failure, do not give up guy’s.
I wish I would have told myself this year’s ago, but am telling you this now. Do not make the same mistakes I did guys, push on, follow your ambitions’ goals and dreams in life, “because let me tell you something” no one else is going to make it happen for you’ it has to come from you, and you only.

And so as we are reaching the peak of our life’s I want you guys to sit down and tell yourself, that no matter what comes your way, that you are going to face it’ head on and keep strong, but most of all you are not going to give up. Because you never know when success really does lie around the corner. Life is short guys so make every minute count.

I hope this short article has helped you realize’ that you can achieve your goals’ and dreams in life’ if you put your mind to it, but above all else’ do not make yourself your worst own enemy, you already have enough people out there telling you you cannot make it and that you well never achieve your goals and dreams, so do not add yourself to that list of people. Guy’s I wish you all the best with your careers.

Until next time in dealing with Relationships’ Friendships’ and things that really matter in life.

Take care and Godless.
Calvin

Welcome to my world!

Hi guy’s my name is Calvin. I was born and bred in London, although I did live in another country for five years from the age of six to 11 years old’ That’s a story for another day. In any case let me tell you a little about myself and why I’ve decided to write blogs and articles. I am a 30 year old male soon to be 31 actually, I live in one of the most known city’s in the world London.

Growing up as a kid and living in the capital has not always been an easy ride.

Moving houses a lot, changing schools, raised most of my life with no father figure around, I didn’t exactly come from the most stable of homes. however amidst all the struggles am still here today, and happy to report I did have some memorable child hood memory’s that will always live with me.

What am doing now!

I am currently working in the retail sector’ which has allowed me to gain strong communication skills and allowed me to connect with people from all walks of life. Having said that, I feel there is a bigger purpose to my life which I am currently exploring and hope to find soon. In the mean time I have found something that I am passionate about and which also helps me to get by in this hectic city, something which I find comfort in. And that is to write articles in the hope that I can touch people’s life’s and make a positive impact on them through my work. I like to connect with people on the fundamentals, and if possible to inspire others and to help them on there journey in life. I’ve always felt the need from around my mid twenties to somehow impact the world, but never quite knowing how to at the time.

But I knew As humans we all tend to go through the same things in life. Love, Heartache, marriage, divorces, ups downs, happiness, sadness, grief, lost, pain, suffering, heartbreak, relationships. Maybe some more then other’s, but you get the picture. And so the article’s I write tend to be based around those topics. I also like to give dating advice to mostly men, but woman also. Stuff that I have personally gone through and learned threw out the years, and from my own mistakes that I have made, and from some of the stuff I’ve learned from other dating coaches out there. I also like to write rap lyrics in my spare time as a hobby, and as a means of expressing some of the things that I have been through. I also enjoy spending time with close friends, and family, having fun, and getting out and about when I get the chance to.

Sometimes it’s the simplest of things that make a difference, and make us happy.

I remember as a kid’ it was little things that use to make me happy. Playing video games, hanging out with friends, buying chocolates and sweets, riding my bike, getting some brand new trainers, stuff like that. Even today hanging out with people that mean the most to me and just talking and having fun makes all the difference. That’s why I hate it when people just try and complicate thing’s when there is no need to. So I tend to keep my life drama free and away from all that unnecessary BS” if I may say so. So guy’s that’s a little about myself and what am doing now, in the meantime I hope my blogs and articles well bring comfort to others, heal souls, and make a positive impact for people out there that maybe are having certain issues in there life, and maybe need some guidance to get them back on the right track, where they can feel a sense of peace again.

If I can help only a handful of people then that’s worth it for me.

Until next time thanks for reading this and stay tuned for more blogs and articles coming your way soon! Calvin.